Where It All Started
I’m Angela Carr Patterson, founder of The Fatherless Daughters Network, Creator of The Journey to Being Process™, Executive Producer of The Making of a Fatherless Daughter™ Documentary and Television Show. For years, I struggled to make my life work. I struggled in my relationship with men, and I struggled in my relationship with money. I thought my struggles were a personal failure on my part. I soon discovered it was something deeper. I was able to retrace much of my pain back to my father-daughter relationship. I was a “Fatherless Daughter Woman” and I was living out many of the patterns associated with women who grew up with a flawed or non-existent father-daughter relationship.
As females, we receive our identity from our paternal relationships and connections. If those relationships are flawed or non-existent, we begin to search for our identity, our sense of worthiness and someone to love us in all the wrong places. This begins the Making of a Fatherless Daughter. Yet, our pain will never heal until we heal our misplaced sense of identity.
After my marriage of sixteen years ended in divorce, I found myself in a deep, dark, and desolate place. Yet, I knew that if I could AWAKEN to the truth of who I was, forgive and heal my foundational daddy wounds, that my life would begin to move in a radical new direction. That’s exactly what I did and there began my Journey to Being.
Today, I am happily married to a wonderful new husband who knows how to love and cherish me for who I really am. I love the work that I do with women through my weekly television show, The Making of a Fatherless Daughter, and training organizations and institutions in my groundbreaking work, The Journey to Being Process™. My goal is to rewrite this tragic story of fatherlessness by helping women/girls to heal and flourish beyond fatherlessness. As I continue this journey, I am so excited to introduce to you Tonya Fairley, The National Director of The Fatherless Daughters Network. Learn how Tonya is taking The Fatherless Daughters Network onto new levels. www.angelacarrpatterson.com
Where It’s All Headed
Hi, I am Tonya Fairley, National Director of The Fatherless Daughters Network. As the National Director, I am so excited about talking this network to new levels of purpose and vision. Our founder, Angela Carr Patterson has entrusted me with the amazing opportunity lead The Fatherless Daughters Network onto its new vision.
Imagine yourself living your life on your own terms rather than living the agenda someone else set for you. I am here to tell you that you can! You can move beyond your situation and your circumstances and write your own story. And you know the great thing about you writing your story rather than settling for someone else’s story? The story can end the way you want it to.
I am excited about the future of The Fatherless Daughters Network. Through Angela Carr Patterson’s Journey to Being Process™, women/girls around the world have learned how to heal and transform their daddy wounds. Now, they are ready for their next. That’s where I come into play and I am so honored. I have been changing and transforming lives for almost 2 decades. Now, I am ready to help the women/girls of the The Fatherless Daughter Network identify their next level and develop their skills to unleash their wildest dreams to shine in the world. Are you ready? www.tonyafairley.com
Who We Are
The World’s Leading Movement for Fatherless Daughters
“Inspiring One Million Women to Flourish Beyond Fatherlessness”
The Fatherless Daughters Network is a global community of Certified Fatherless Daughter Advocates who aim to elevate the awareness of the negative impact that fatherlessness has on a female’s life.
This rapidly growing community of advocates provide educational services, resources, online and live events, all designed to combat and decrease the many negative influences in the lives of females who grew up fatherless.
Through monthly, quarterly, and annual meetings, activities, workshops, retreats and conferences, led by our Certified Fatherless Daughter Advocates, women and girls can learn empowering tools for healing old wounds, while finding support and sisterhood.
Based on the teachings of our founder, Angela Carr Patterson, and her groundbreaking work, “The Journey to Being Process™”, women and girls will learn how to redefine who they are beyond their fatherlessness, reclaim their worth and rewrite a new narrative for their lives.
What is a Fatherless Daughter?
We define a fatherless daughter as a female who grew up with an unattached, unavailable, absent or a flawed father-daughter relationship. We all have a biological father, but when the term fatherless is used, it means that the father figure has not been fully present in the daughter’s life. She then becomes an unfathered daughter because her dad has been emotionally or physically unavailable. it’s not easy to cope with being fatherless. As human beings we crave to be loved, cared for and cherished by those who are supposed to be there for us. When this doesn’t happen, many negative influences can plague our lives and start us on a journey of unthinkable consequences. Studies show that girls and young women who have unstable father figures are more liable to have unplanned pregnancies, low self-esteem, high school and college drop out, poverty, divorce and sexually promiscuous behaviors.
The impact of an absent, unattached or unavailable father on his daughter’s life is critical when it come to how she views herself and the world. When a girl’s father makes it clear to her that she is loved unconditionally for who she is and the he approves of her, he begins to lay a foundation for her healthy sense of self worth, self love, and self value. The foundation will follow her into adulthood.
If, however, the little girl does not have such a relationship with the father, if she sees rejection, or emotional coldness or withdrawal from him; her sense of self worth will be tainted. If he simply is not available and doesn’t provide for her needs, her self confidence becomes warped or non-existent. In addition, her portrait of a loving relationship or her image of provisions may become distorted or dysfunctional, and she may find herself–lacking and feeling unsafe and insecure. There, Begins the Making of a Fatherless Daughter.
Impact: Females Who Grew Up Fatherless Are:
- Eight times more likely to go to prison.
- Five times more likely to commit suicide.
- Twenty times more likely to have behavioral problems.
- 32 times more likely to run away.
- Ten times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
- Nine times more likely to drop out of high schools.
- 33 times more likely to be seriously abused.
- 73 times more likely to be fatally abused.
- One-tenth as likely to get A’s in school.
- On average have a 44% higher mortality rate.
- On average have a 72% lower standard of living.
The above facts are taken from: US Department of Health and Human Services, US Department of Health & Census, Rainbow of All God’s Children, Parents of Prison of Prison Policy Review and US Department of Justice Special Report.
Symptoms of a Fatherless Daughter:
- Rage and Anger
- Feelings of Abandonment
- Overdriven by Success
- Trust and Commitment Issues
- Challenges with Shame, Sex and Intimacy
- Low Self Image
- Difficulty in Sustaining Healthy Lasting Relationships
- Issues Around Money
Truth of the matter is, some fathers don’t know how to love their children. Many do abandon, use, abuse, and manipulate their children. There’s nothing one can do to change such fathers. That’s just who they are. But we can change how millions of women and girls feel inside, and how they respond to this uncaring behavior of their fathers. We can decrease the many social ills that are created by fatherlessness by providing hope, information, transformation, and inspiration through “The Journey to Being Process™.”
There had to be a process that would elevate the awareness of the negative impact that fatherlessness has on a female’s life. This process had to offer result driven, sustainable solutions, processes, and strategies to help them move beyond their daddy wounds and create a clear vision for their future. A process that collectively adapted to an understanding that fatherless women and girls are not broken, or damaged, but they are simply wounded. Our conclusion recognizes that all wounds heal when the right conditions are met and when given the proper antidote. Here at The Fatherless Daughters Network, we will create the right conditions and provide you with the proper antidote.